MY CHILD - WE LOVE YOU

MY CHILD
To see you happy---
Laughing and joking, smiling and content,
Striving towards goals of your own.
Accomplishing what you set out to do,
Having fun with yourself and your friends,
Capable of loving and being loved,
Is what we always wished for you.
Today we thought about your
Handsome face and felt excitement for life
And your genuine happiness,
And we as parent burst with pride
As we realised our dreams for you come true
What an extraordinary
Person you have become
And as you continue to grow please
Remember how very much
WE LOVE YOU

ENDS AND MEANS - THE ETERNAL DEBATE

End and Means - the eternal debate.

Do ends justify the means? "No", said M K Gandhi. Professor J K Mehta, economist, professor at Allahabad, and philosopher, argued that by adopting wrong means, the end achieved is never what you seek to achieve. But with due respect to Gandhi and Prof Mehta, it is certainly debatable whether ends justify means or not.
A goonda is molesting a woman. You are present, but you are a pacifist who considers violence wrong means. Will you try to persuade him or physically stop him? Even Gandhi made an exception in the case of Kashmir in 1947 when he approved of the Indian Army's intervention against foreign invaders.
It is often said that there is no such thing as a "justified war" or a "war for preventing future wars". But what would one say about the war against Adolph Hitler? No amount of passive resistance could have stopped Hitler. If only non-violent resistance was used against Hitler, his tyranny and that of his successor dictators might have lasted long. One cannot justify misery and pain for millions of victims for years even if a better world might emerge later.
While Gandhi was a great believer in the Gita, Krishna's views on this important question of "ends and means" are almost diametrically the opposite of Gandhi's. Several episodes in the Mahabharata like the killing of Dronacharya (by saying "Ashwatthama Mara Gaya"), the killing of Karna against the rules of war while he was repairing his chariot, the killing of Bhishmapitamaha through Shikhandi, the killing of Duryodhana through the unfair act of pointing out to his (vulnerable) thighs - all at the initiative of Lord Krishna himself - seem to suggest that to achieve justice, unfair means would be quite in order. Where to draw the line of justification or non-justification?
Would it be right for a man who has been insulted and abused to shoot down the abuser and take his life? What about terrorism? If ends justify means, can even genuine freedom fighters make use of "terrorism" as a weapon to fight their cause? There can possibly only be what has been described as "situation ethics" - individually each situation's ethics would need to be determined. There can be no rigid principles or criteria. And yet, most of us would feel that in our conscious and sub-conscious thinking, there are some factors which make us decide one situation as being a fit case for ends justifying means and another, as not being of that nature.
One almost universally applicable factor would be that we should not be the first to use "unfair means". If a criminal has kidnapped my child, I may use almost any means like deception or forgery to trap and apprehend the criminal because it would be against a grievous act of injustice and inhumanity coupled with the fact that I was not the first to have used unfair means. Second, my unfair act should not be completely out of proportion to the unfair act of my opponent. These two factors "no first use" and "no first disproportionate escalation", would perhaps have a high degree of applicability. But they do not represent an exhaustive list of relevant factors. For group, as against individuals, considerations of a "societal" nature count. For example, in case of 'terrorism', history would show that deliberate killing of innocents creates terrible chain reactions and the outright banning of terrorism is a necessity arising out of societal wisdom and ethics, irrespective of "no first use" and "no first disproportionate escalation".
But the question remains: Who is to judge what is justified use of "unfair" means and what is "disproportionate escalation".

I WONDER WHY

Why do we wait till a person is gone,
Before we tell him of his worth!
Why do we wait, why not tell him now,
He's the finest man, we know, on earth!
Why do we wait till a person is gone,
To send at his grave flowers agalore?
When a single rose would have meant so much,
If we had taken ar his door!
Why do we wait till he cannot hear,
The good things we wanted to say?
Why put it off, why not tell him now,
And share in his joy today!
Of course, we are busy - that's our excuse.
But why - oh WHY - do we wait,
To express our feelings, our love, for him,
UNTIL IT BECOMES TOO LATE!!!!!!!!!!!!

CARDS IN THE GAME OF LIFE

The cards in the game of life are given to us all. We do not select them. We may not like the way they have been shuffled and dealt with - but we like to play the game and so want to play. According to some these cards traced to our past ‘Karma’ - be it true or not - we can call as we please, lead what suit we will and we gain or lose according to how we play our cards.

BENDING?

The exercise most frequently performed by human beings.
We bend over backwards for some people. We bend low fawning over others. We never miss a bender (a drinking spree); teachers give us benders; we periodically bend to pick up the shattered pieces of our lives; we bend double with pain; we bend low with care; we bend to touch our toes in vain attempt to stave off middle-age spread. In fact we are now beginning to stoop to any lengths. And I am beginning to wonder why our forefathers ever bothered to stand up in the first place.

SOME INTERSTING 4-LINERS

FLOWERS
The sweetest flower that blows,
I give you as we part,
For you it is a rose –
For me it is my heart!

FRIENDSHIP
And what is friendship but a name,
A charm that lulls to sleep,
A shade that follows wealth and fame,
And leaves the wretch to weep!

GHOST
The other day - upon the stair
I saw a man who wasn’t there,
He wasn’t there again today,
I wish to God he would go away!

LIFE’S JOURNEY
Along life’s journey – off and on
Lie obstacles of rock and ditch;
He who with courage drives the car,
Reaches his goal without a hitch.

LITTLE CAR
Mary had a little car,
She drove in a manner deft,
And every time she signaled left,
The little car went right.

MY DEAR
Hush my dear, lie still and slumber!
Holy Angels guard thy bed!
Heavenly blessings without number,
Gently falling on thy HEAD!

MY HEART
Not with madness but with sadness,
My heart it’s cruel lesson learns.
Not with sadness but with madness,
My heart the art of LOVE learns

MY MOTHER
Who ran to help me when I fell,
Or would some pretty story tell,
Or kiss the place to make it well?
My mother, my mother, my dear mother!

MY REGRETS
Among life’s dying embers,
These are my regrets;
When I am right no one remembers,
When I am wrong, no one forgets!

SOME STRAY THOUGHTS

NATURE: Take time each day to commune with nature and to silently witness the intelligence within every living thing that exists. Sit silently and watch a sunset, or listen to the sound of the ocean, or a stream, or simply smell the scent of a flower. Practice non-judgement! Begin each new day with the statement, “Today I shall judge nothing that occurs”.

CONSCIOUS CHANGE: Conscious change is brought about by the two qualities inherent in consciousness:
attention and intention. Attention energizes and intention transforms. Whatever you put your attention on will grow stronger in your life. Whatever you take your attention away from will wither, disintegrate and disappear. Intention on the other hand triggers transformation of energy and information. Intention organizes its own fulfillment.

TIME MANAGEMENT: The essence of effective time management is to organize and execute around balanced priorities. Most people say their main fault is a lack of discipline. I believe that is not the case. The basic problem is that their priorities have not become deeply planted in their hearts and minds.

SMALLER DUTIES OF LIFE

Among the smaller duties of life, I hardly know any one more
important than that of not praising where praise is due. Reputation
is one of the prizes which men/women contend for, it produces
more labour and more talent than twice the wealth a country could
ever rear up. It is the coin of genius and it is the imperious duty of
every person to bestow it with the most scrupulous justice and
the wisest economy without any reservations.

EVEN THIS SHALL PASS AWAY

Once in Persia reigned a king,
Who upon his signet ring,
Engraved a maxim true and wise,
Which if held before the eyes,
Gave him counsel at a glance,
Fit for every change and chance,
Solemn words and these are they –
“ Even this shall pass away.”

VIOLENCE IN OUR DAY TO DAY LANGUAGE

Have you ever wondered how many violent words we use in everyday use? Why do we use such words:
Execute a will.
Beat the drums.
Sink our differences.
Smother a sneeze.
Strangle a laugh.
Steal a glance.
Assault our eardrums.
Kill an urge.
Burn our boats.
Bite our tongue.
Nail a lie.
Tie the boat.
Drown our sorrows.
Hang our dress.
Shoot a photograph.
Try our luck.
Hit the ball.
Burn the candle.
Skin the vegetables.
Bury the hatchet.
Be dead on time.
Whip the cream.
Blow the nose.
Blast the furnace.
Murder democracy.
Cut the slices.
Whip the cream.

CAN YOU BELIEVE IT

Doctors flourish on Poor Health
Gardeners grow on Plants
Tailors make money Cutting Clothes
Priests rely on Blind Faith
Butchers depend on Slaughter
Plumbers capitalize on Leaks
Policemen shoot up on Criminals
Electricians climb up on Poles
Palmists live off Lines
Chemists lean on Drugs
Firemen warm up on Fires
Lawyers bank on Litigation
Bureaucrats get along on Rules
Grave-diggers prosper on our dead bodies.

MORE ON BACRONYMS

My grandson is very inquisitive, he has gone through my list and deliberately selects words not yet made and questions me. This is based on his queries:
One day he said, a “Historian” is rarely, if at all, present at the scene, so how does he write all that we read in history books, I decided to answer him in my own special way, forming a phrase using only the letters of the word in sequential order. After thinking for some time I finally told him:-
Hearsay Information, Sifting Thoroughly, Objectively Records Incidents And Narratives. Or maybe:
He Imagines Something, Twists Others, Records Idiosyncrasies, Assembles Narratives.
His next query was about “Temptation”, the answer I game him was: -
The Ever Mesmeric Ploy That Attempts To Incite Outrageous Notions.
His next question was about “Abdomen”, the answer was:
Actually Belly, Digestive Organ, Metabolizes Entire Nourishment.
He now came up with “Gymnastics”, it took me quite some time to come up with an answer, but
finally I gave one: -
Gives Your Muscles Noteworthy Adaptability, Stimulus, Thereby Imparting Co-ordination, Strength.
He then wanted to be enlightened about an “Optimist” and a “Pessimist”, well I had to bring out the difference very clearly, here is what he was told: -
Outcome Predictable, Task Is Manageable, I’ll Surely Triumph, and
Predictably, Even Sees Serious Impediments, Machinations, In Small Things.
His next question took me by surprise, it was about “Siesta’, well here was the answer I gave: -
Spain Itinerary - Enjoy Sleep Through Afternoon.
As I said earlier he was testing me as he next came up with “Catastrophe” well fortunately I too had a ready reply for him:
Calamity, Accursed Total Annihilation, Startling Thunderbolt, Result Of Particularly Horrendous Event.
He was ready for some more so I told him no more but on his insistence I said o.k., one more he came up with “Tradition” and the answer I formed was:-
Time-honoured Religious And Dynastic Instructions, Teachings Implemented, Observed, Nostalgically.

LIFE - STYLE - THE MIDDLE PATH - Enunciated by Gautam Buddha

Be Religious, not Bigoted; Virtuous, noe Self-righteous; Devout, not Fanatical; gather Wealth, not Cruelly; Enjoy, without Elation; Speak gently, not Insincerely; be Brave, without Boasting; be Generous, not Wasteful; be Sentimental, not Emotional; Give, not Indiscriminately; Speak boldly, not Harshly; make Friends, not with Ignoble; Fight, not with Friends; seek Information, not from the Unreliable; serve your Interest, without Hurting others; ask Advice, not from the Unwise; praise Virtues, not your Own; Trust, but not the Evil; Punish, not Thoughtlessly; love and guard thy Spouse, without Jealousy; be Refined, but not Supercilious; Feed delicately, not Unwholesomely; enjoy Conjugal pleasure, not Overmuch; honour the Wealthy, not the Proudly; Serve, without Deceit; Propiciate, without Fawning; be Clever, not out of Season; be Angry, not without strong Cause; be Gentle, not to the Mischievious; worship Deity, without Display.

TITLE – FREE AND EXCHANGE MANIA.

A commotion outside! Crunching of wheels resulting, apparently, from application of brakes?
I thought – maybe some drunkard has been knocked down, but why near my peaceful (??) house. My house and peaceful! - Oh no!!
I thought I would be setting a good example by finding out who has been knocked down and by whom! Down I went, taking my heavy weight walking stick along hoping to hit the wrongdoer hard and fast and thereby teach him an unforgettable lesson.
Yes! there was a truck near my gate – but I could not see any injured victim anywhere near and as far as I could see.
Later on it dawned on me that I was the injured one! (Why? Pleases read on.)
“Hey“ I yelled at the truck driver, who did you kill man? “Killed?” he looked surprised, “here is your delivery”, you are Mr. Bhag, aren’t you? And your house number is D-54, right?
“Sure, I am Bhag (though I have nowhere to bhago!) of D-54, Bhoot Nagar, but Mr. I am not due for any delivery – neither is my wife! She was operated last year and we have a kid, no more – good family planned, eh?”
Sir!” the truck driver looked annoyed, “please collect your delivery and pay my transport charges”.
Forcefully he thumped a paper in my hand containing a list of 100 odd items and then............ my time machine rolled back and I could understand every maniac bit of mania my wife had suffered from. It was, more or less, the same thing everyday! “Here Billy”, she calls me Billy and I call her Pup: short for Baldev and short for Papilly, “you know, with every 6 Lux soaps,
there are 2 free, with 2 kg Surf there is 1 kg free, with 5kg of Basmati rice, there is 2kg. free and so on and on she went”.
So she would come from the market with 50 kg. of items. She would travel even 15 kms, if need be, to the market and back, pay the taxi a hefty sum, just for some “free” items. I had to foot the bill, of course, which would run in hundreds!
Then ....... these exchange offers! One day when I returned from office longing for a cold drink, I sprang for the kitchen and the fridge – that was missing. Half an hour later, a loading taxi came to unload a new fridge and asked me to pay Rs.200/- as taxi fare.
“Why?” I asked?
“Sir, I have come to from 30 kms, your wife is coming in another taxi with the engineer who will install the new fridge.” So she arrived – my Pup. I had to pay Rs.275- more for the taxi”.
“Exchange offer” she cooed sweetly “new in place of old”
“How much less you had to pay for the new one?” I asked? Rs.1000/-, our fridge was very old hence only Rs.1000/- was made less.” “275+200= Rs.475, was spent and we got Rs.1000/- less,
well we still save Rs.525/-, she explained, please get me 2 cold drink bottles from the fridge? I am feeling very thirsty.”
I am employed in an export firm, I have lot of “homework” to do, hence I do it on my P.C. and store all files in it. One day my boss wanted access to some files and said he would send me abroad to attend a conference and that I would get lavish incentive if we get an important contract. I went home, ran towards my computer room to get the files. But! I nearly died of stroke. There was no computer! I frantically reported the theft to the Police. I tried to trace my wife, finally located her at a Computer Store – she had purchased a new computer in exchange of my old one!
“Where is my old computer?” I asked the computer dealer, “I have some important files there which I urgently need.”
“Just a few minutes ago we sold to a young lady and got a very good bargain” the storekeeper said proudly. I took this customer’s address, tried to locate her but to no avail. I spent lot of money searching for her – taxis, phone calls etc, and in the bargain got suspension orders from my boss!
“Will you now stop this maniac activity?” I fired Pup, no more free offers and no more exchange offers, mind you!”
“But to-morrow ,” she announced, “we are shifting to our new house. I have sold this house in exchange for a new one”, she concluded jubilantly, and you know, no transport charges.
So we shifted to our new home. There were 2 TV sets, one in the sitting room and another in the bedroom. I bought one 51cms TV and got a 21cms set free. There was 280L size fridge in the kitchen, and one 90L in the bedroom. The 90L was free with the 280L one! and yes, I even got a Microwave oven and OTG free with a fully automatic Washing Machine.”
Oh, God! I cursed the markets for introducing the free and exchange offers. Suddenly I heard some child crying and the bang, bang sounds coming from the attic.
“What’s cooking up there?” I asked as we moved towards the stairs.
She opened the door and what did I see? A girl aged 2 years and a boy aged 5 years dressed as a superman, with two pistols in his hands. “Hands up!” he said pointing the pistols at me.
“Who are you?” I asked perplexed.
Pup put her arms around my back, gave me a peek on the cheek. “Oh darling!”, she sighed “you wanted another child, we have only one...”
“So!”
“I went to the orphanage, adopted the boy and got the girl along with him”
“Oh really!” This kind of bargain was unheard of before. I was at the end of my wits now, so I decided to teach her a lesson.
Next day - I rang the doorbell, Pup opened the door. When she saw me, her mouth opened wide in amazement!
I had two pretty damsels, one on either side of me, with their arms inter-twined in mine.
“Who are they?” she screamed at me.
“Well” I replied proudly, “I married one and the priest gave me the other one FREE.”

YOU MAKE MAGIC - A BIRTHDAY CARD FOR YOUR USE

YOU MAKE MAGIC

You make magic everyday,
With your unique recipe,
That you have created just for me.
With eternal shelf life.
Something with absolute and
Authentic, unique, flavour.
With which you enrich my life!!!!!!
Ingredients as I know them to be:
A dash of unusual gentleness,
Toppings of warmth and care,
Dollops of love and affection,
A pinch of tears, bunch of smiles,
Spiced with sense of duty,
Sense of sharing and empathy.
I have felt you mix these ingredients,
To whip up a scintillating specialty,
Garnished with generous amounts of
Patience and understanding,
That delights me no end.
May you continue to provide me,
This special dish in your –
Many, Many More Enchanting
HAPPY BIRTHDAYS.

BACRONYMS - FOR YOU TO TRY

Try your hand at completing these Bacronyms:
1. CON Confidently O...... Nefariously.
2. DEBATE Discuss Elaborately, Boldly A...., Than Evaluate.
3. DEMAND Desire Explicitly, Matter-of-fact Assert Nicely D.........
4. DEMISE Death, Eventual M....... Into Supernatural Empire.
5. DENTURE Duplicates Eventually N.......Teeth Using Replicas Efficiently.
6. EFFACE Erase Fully F....And Cleanse Entirely.
7. EMERGE Enter, M.....Expectedly, R...... , Get Exposed.
8. FACET F.......Aspect, Concisely Expressed Theory.
9. FAMINE Fatal A.......Monsoons Influencing Nations E........
10. FIT Fully Informed, T.......
11. GAG G.......Against Groans.
12. GRADE G......R......And Decide Eligibility.
13. GRAVE Ground R.........After Veritable End.
14. HYPOTHESIS Helps You – Properly Outline T, Highlight Essential S, Inject Simplicity.
15. JAIL J.......... Authorized I....... Location.


[My choices 12 Give Rating. 2 Argue. 8 Feature. 14 Theory, Steps. 1 Outwit. 15 Judicially, Internment.
3 Dictating. 13 Retained. 4 Movement. 11 Guard. 5 Natural. 10 Trained. 6 Features. 9 Adverse, Economy. 7 Move, Reveal]

LOVE

Time we talked of LOVE
Love is sharing all the wonderful things of life with someone you care about.
By caring for each other’s ups and downs your lives get forever intertwined.
By sharing your hopes, thoughts, dreams your lives will flourish as never before.
Working with each other to build your lives together strengthens your love.
Love as it tightens its grip offers the best in life with that person at its center.
Your love having brought you closer together will create a beautiful HOME.
That Home while still expressing your individuality will abound in harmony.
And yet your love for one another will make that Home an abode for peace.
Very rich in HAPPINESS and Filled with everlasting LOVE for each other.

MISMANAGEMENT PROCESS

Mismanagement Process
A story is told about 4 people named Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody. There was an important job to be done and Everybody was sure that Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it. Somebody got angry about that, because it was Everybody’s job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it. But Nobody realized that Everybody would not do it. It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when Nobody did what Anybody could have done.
How management in a missionary institution is so different from others?
There, Nobody is irresponsible. Everybody would give the best. Somebody even excels. Anybody does the
job willingly with a spirit of devotion to duty.
Interesting tale isn’t it?

And now “ The Law of Utilizing Incompetence”
A. Those who can – do.
B. Those who cannot – advise.
C. Those who cannot do even that – teach.
D. Those who cannot do even that – teach teachers to teach.
E. Those who cannot do even that – administer
F. Those who cannot do even that – join politics.

BACRONYMS

(I have given my Bacronyms website earlier as
bhargavavtara.wordpress.com
Please note these Bacronyms are not included there.)
ABIDE Amicably Behave Implementing Directions Earnestly.
ACTIVATE i) After Complete Testing Initiate Vital Actions, Timely Execute.
ii) Astutely Contribute Towards Initializing Venture, Assisting Tasks Execution.
ADAMANT Acting Doggedly Avoid Making Any New Turn-about.
ADVERSE A Distinctly Very Exasperating Result, Serious Error.
AGHAST Act Grotesquely Horrified And Seemingly Terrified.
AIR Advise Ignoring Response.
AMPLE All Materials Plentiful, Levels Exceeded.
ANTICIPATE Analyzing, Nay, Trusting Intuition Control Impact
Pre-empting Adverse Times Effect.
ANTIPATHY Aversion, Nature That Ignoring Problems Attempts To Hurt You.
APPEAR Attend Party, Performance, Enjoy And Relax
APPRECIATION Acclamation, Passionate Praise Recognizing Exceptional Creativity, Interesting Achievement, That Is Operational Now.
ARTISTIC Aesthetic, Rapturously Traced Impeccable Scenario That Is Charismatic.
ASCERTAIN After Suitably Conducting Enquiries, Record Truthfully Available Information Neatly.
AUCTION Allows Us Competitive Trading, Isochronus Options Normally.
BALL Bounces And Loudly Lands.
BECAUSE Briefly Explain Certain Assumptions Using Some Expletives.
BELIEVE Brazenly Explore, Lacking Impeccable Evidence Veracity Endorse.
BREATHING Besides Refreshing Exercise Air That Helps Is Naturally Given.
BUMP Brake Unwarily, Madly Push.
CALIBRE Comprises Abilities Like Intelligence, Brilliance, Resilience, Excellence.
CAPABLE Completely Acceptable Performance Achieves, Basics Learns Easily.
CATHEDRAL Church, Artistic, Theosophical, Holistic Edifice, Decidedly Religious, Aesthetic Layout.
CATCH Cunningly And Tactfully Concealed Hitch.
CELEBRATIONS Cosmetic Entertainment, Lively Events, Birthdays, Religious, Artistic
Traditional, Important Occasions Now Sanctified.
CHAT Carefully Hear And Talk.
CIRCUMSTANCES Conditions Influencing, Rather Causing, Unforeseen Mayhem,
Situations That Attract Nasty Consequence, Embarrassing Significantly.
CLASP Closely Link And Strongly Press.
COMPILATION Collection Of Material Publicized, Important Literary And Technical Information Often Needed.
COMPRESS Contract, Often Meticulously Pushing, Reset ensuring Space Saving.
CONCISE Comprehensive Observations, News Condense In Simple Expressions.
CONNIVE Carry Out Nasty Notions Implanted Very Enthusiastically.
CONSIDER Check Options, Nonchalantly Study Information, Deliberate, Eventually Respond.
CONSUME Completely Outrun Needed Supplies, Utilizing Materials Efficiently.
CRAMP i) Contraction, Result – Acute Muscular Pain.
ii) Completely Restrictive Acute Muscular Pain.
CUE Correct Understanding Enables.

THERE IS NO ONE QUITE LIKE YOU

There is no one else quite like you,
You’re a part of the Universe just as you are.
As unique as each tree and each glittering star.
There is no one else quite like you.
You’re someone of infinite worth,
Who deserves every joy and blessing on earth.
There is no one else quite like you.
So treat yourself gently with pride wherever you are,
Continue to be true to the person you are deep inside.
We will miss you very much when we part.
But shall cherish the sweet memories,
Of the days we spent together.

And here is something you can use on VALENTINE DAY.
If there is one FACE:
I want to see each day throughout my life.
One SMILE that makes a difference to everything I do.
If there is - one TOUCH I long to feel
If there is – one VOICE I wait to hear
If there is – one JOY, one LOVE,
From which I never want to part with,
That someone in --
My World,
My Life,
My Heart - it is YOU
Loving you fills,
My HEART with joy!
My WORLD with wonder!
My LIFE with meaning!
And on this day I just want to say -
Thanks for being so special,
So wonderful, So Easy To LOVE!

KEEP IT UP

KEEP IT UP!!!
Nothing can stop his steps who mocks,
At thunder-showers and lightning fits;
The confidence with which he treads,
Can shatter hardest rock to bits.
Who with decision clinches life,
And walks with vision, unafraid;
His reputation inevitably waxes high,
His goal is reached – his life is made.
That heart can never reach the goal,
Which goes astray in confusion;
Only that heart can reach the goal
Which is not tangled in illusion.
Know that it is your duty to go on,
With courage trusting in His Grace;
He who has triumphed over mind,
Is certain winner of the race.
Feet that are steady, firm and sure
Can make the proudest mountain bend;
The journey starts at every step,
In truth there is no journey’s end.
When driver, car and wheel,
Become a trio, start to work as one;
Obstinate hurdles disappear,
Hazardous jobs are done.
He who leaves foot-prints on his life’s way,
On him high glory is bestowed;
All earth receives him reverently,
While stars to him reveal the road.
Along life’s journey – off and on
Lie obstacles of rock and ditch;
He who with courage drives the life's car
He truly reaches his goal without a hitch.
So just keep it up, up and up!!!!!!

OBSTINATE WORD

Let me tell you about the most obstinate word I have come across, maybe you will agree too. It is HABIT. You see if we remove the first letter H, "a bit" still remains. When we remove both H and A, "bit" still remains. O.K. if we remove the first 3 letters "it" still remains. if we go a step further and remove T also, the egoistic "I" still remains. The only way to get rid of HABIT is to get rid of it at one go!!!!

DEFT DEFINITIONS - Part 1

Here are some Deft Definitions from my collection.
ABNORMAL In matters of thought and conduct to be independent is to be abnormal, to be abnormal is to be detested; wherefore this lexicographer advises a striving towards a straighter resemblance to the average than hath to himself. Who so attaineth thereto shall have peace, the prospect of death and the hope of hell.
ABILITY Poor man's wealth.
ABORTION Love's labour lost.
ABSTINENCE Surety of temperance.
ABSURDITY A statement of belief manifestly inconsistent with one's own opinions.
ACCENT The soul of a language; that which gives feeling, warmth and sense of truth to it.
ACQUAINTANCE Aperson whom we know well enough to borrow from but not well enough to lend to; Adegree of friendship calledslight when it's object is poor or obscure and intimate whenhe is rich or famous.
ACTION Best interpreter of man's thoughts.
Parent of results.
Cure for grief.
ACUPUNCTURE A jab well done.
ADMIRATION Our polite recognition of another's resemblance to ourselves.
A short-lived passion that immediately decays upon growing familiar with its objects.
ADOLESCENCE Emotional see-sickness.
Age at which children start bringing up their parent's.
ADOPTION A simple, cost effective, labour saving, emotionally satisfying path to parenthood.
ADULT A person who has stopped growing at both ends and has started growing in the middle.
ADULTERER One whose way is hedged with thorns, full of fears and jealousies, burning desires, and impatient waitings, tediousness of delays and sufferance of affronts and amazement of discovery.
ADVENTURER One who practices the art of the impossible.
ADVERSITY It has the effect of eliciting talents which in pros-perous circumstances would have lain dormant.
Appropriate balance in which to weigh friend-ship.
ADVERTISING Selling promises.
The science of arresting the human intelligence long enough to get money from it.
Ministers to the spiritual side of the business.
ADVICE A debt which the old owe to the young.
Something which the older generation is fond of giving to console themselves for being no longer in a position to set examples.
The softer it falls, the deeper it sinks and the longer it dwells.
Too valuable a thing to be retained withoneself - pass it on!
AFFECTION A spot in the geography of the mind.
AFFECTIONS They are like lightning, you cannot tell where they will strike till they have fallen.
AFTERMATH The next lesson after mathematics.
ALCOHOL A food well in advance of medical thought.
A liquid good for preserving almost everything except secrets and etiquettes.
ALIMONY The high cost of learning that you chose a wrong partner.
It is like paying for the auto after the wreck.
The high cost of Leaving.

FRIENDSHIP

FRIENDSHIP
Let me talk to you about Friendship. You must have heard a lot about it – and also given a lot of thought to it. What it should mean, what it should do and what it and friends can achieve, you may also have heard somebody say;
What is Friendship but a name,
A charm that lulls to sleep,
A shade that follows wealth and fame,
And leaves the wretch to weep.
Well different people behave differently and have different experiences. So with all this talk and knowledge you too may have felt confused and may also have felt Friendship is just a kind of lottery in life, only if you are lucky you get a friend who gives complete satisfaction. Examine, too, your own behaviour towards your friends of the past, in particular.
Well I am going to take the liberty to bring, to add, something!
“True friendship is of a royal lineage. It is of the same kith and breeding as loyalty and self-forgetting devotion, and proceeds upon a higher principle than even they. For loyalty may be blind, but friendship must not be; devotion may sacrifice principle of right choice, which friendship must guard with an excellent and watchful care. The object of friendship like that of love is to serve, not to win”!
The object of Friendship is not only to love but also to guard and guide, guide to ways of wisdom, and –
“If wisdom ways you wisely seek,
Five things observe with care,
Of whom you speak, with whom you speak,
And how and why and where.”
You may perhaps have tried to be friends and have failed, failures may also be in other directions and matters, but let me tell you – “success in this world is rarely achieved but that should not deter you, for isn’t the purpose of life – to chase success”? Put in other words, you should be physically and mentally in tune with the sentiments expressed here:
Though I do my best, I scarcely succeed,
But what if I fail of my purpose here?
It is but to keep the nerves at strain,
To dry one’s eyes and laugh at a fall,
And baffled, get up and begin again,
So the chase takes up one’s life; that’s all.
We have digressed, so it appears, from Friendship to Life, and my considered advice is - “Let your life lightly dance on the edge of time, like dew on the tip of a leaf”. Nay, I will go a step further and take you to the realm of the future and yet what always is “the present”, and I trust you will agree;
“Every tomorrow has two handles, one can take hold of it with the handle of anxiety or the handle of faith”.
And I will add further;
“We should live for the future and yet should find our life in the fidelities of the present”.
And conclude that;
“The last is the only method of the first”.
Perhaps you may be thinking that this all is too much for the grey matter in your cerebral region or too boring. But then let me assure you that;
“There is nothing so elastic as the human mind. Like imprisoned steam, the more it is pressed, the more it rises to resist the pressure. The more we are obliged to do the more we are able to accomplish”.
So don’t ever think that the tasks assigned to you by your friends are too many for you to tackle and all this too much for you to digest, and to end;
“HAPPINESS IS A HABIT CULTIVATE IT.
FRIENDSHIP IS A NECESSITY- CARE FOR IT”!!!!!!